- Dr Rocio Rosales Meza
Self love is radical act because it begins the unlearning of how the colonial patriarchy taught...
Beloveds, everything we’ve been taught about self-esteem is incomplete, inaccurate for BIPOC.

You can have high self-esteem as a Black, Indigenous, Person of color, & yet feel unworthy at your core.
How do I know? Because this was me. I had high self-esteem & yet I consented to my own abuse, without knowing it.
You see, BIWOC, Femmes of color, gender non-conforming folx of color that embody the divine feminine are indoctrinated to care for everyone but themselves. We are conditioned to “be strong “ which is code for tolerate pain. We are encouraged & praised for our sacrifice.
And where does this stem from? How is it possible to have high self-esteem & yet feel unworthy & consent to our own abuse?
Colonial intergenerational trauma. We are taught to abuse ourselves, to hate ourselves, to punish ourselves and unconsciously we perpetuate it.
Healing is possible love. It will likely be lifelong, but it is possible.
Being conscious of the ways that we have been colonized, the ways we are encouraged to abuse ourselves will lead us to healing.
Realizing you’ve been colonized, & having love, compassion for yourself because of it is how you can begin to heal dear one.
Can you see why loving yourself is a radical act love? Can you relate to my experience? Give yourself some grace my love, you have 500+ years of colonization to undue.
I’m here to help you heal, to guide you back to you, to Spirit. May we heal together & get free🦅.
Loving you💖