The reason you struggle with prioritizing your needs is because the coloinal capitalist patriarchy..
This is why self love is a radical act.
BIWOC in particular have been taught that our needs don’t matter, that we only exist to serve and care for others.
And this is why we feel guilty when we take time for ourselves.
We’ve been conditioned, indoctrinated to believe that our sole purpose is to exist for others.
And this is also why we struggle with setting boundaries, because we’ve been conditioned to emotionally care for others at the cost of our own mental, physical, emotional, spiritual health.
That cost is invisible and the truth is that other folx EXPECT this from us too. Just like we’ve been indoctrinated, they’ve been indoctrinated to expect this from us and become angry when we don’t.
Your healing and liberation will come at a cost my loves, people will be upset. Let them. You don’t need people that only see you as a servant, you need reciprocity, you need love and care too.
And, part of my work is to help you be liberated from these colonial shackles, to heal, so that you can begin to accept that you are worthy too.
I hold the vision for you my love, I will model this for you my love, I will forge the path ahead so that you can begin to see it. Why should we feel guilty for feeling at peace? For living in harmony?
Can you begin to accept these truths beautiful one?
Because what good is my healing and liberation if it doesn’t include you too?
I am you, and you are me.
I love you 💖💖💖